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Would YOU read this book?

The novel — let’s skip the title and author — was highly praised. (Sarah Gruen called it "haunting.") And then one of you suggested it. So I got it. And started to read. Here’s the set-up: A married woman, late in her pregnancy, has stomach pains. She’s just moved into a new house. Husband’s at work. Phone’s not connected. She stumbles to a neighbor. Doesn’t know the name of the local hospital and doesn’t ask. Doesn’t remember her former doctor’s number and, though weeks away from the delivery room, has no new doctor. So she calls her father, who lives in this city. He’ll call a cab. She doesn’t know her address; she has to ask her neighbor. In the cab, she realizes she has no wallet. At the hospital, she has no ID. (Amazingly, she does know her social security number and date of birth.) They tell her to go to the back of the line, and she does. Maybe it’s just me, and maybe I’m just testy, but I ask you: Is this woman an idiot, or what? And having read the first chapter of this allegedly realistic novel, would you go on to the next? 

I never do this, but….

March 10, 2011 — A few days ago, the New York Times published a story  about the rape of an 11-year old girl in Texas by as many 18 men, some teenagers, some adults. A few of the suspects proudly recorded the attack on their video-equipped cell phones. Almost as incredible as the attack: in his article, the Times reporter extensively quoted members of the community, who said “She dressed older than her age, wearing makeup and fashions more appropriate to a woman in her 20s” and “These boys have to live with this the rest of their lives” — classic “blame the victim” remarks that were uncontested in the article and suggest a greater concern for the alleged perpetrators than the victim. Here’s the Times piece. I urge you to read it for yourself. And then, if you feel like signing an online petition calling on the Times to issue an apology and publish an editorial from a victim’s rights expert, click here. [March 12 update: Arthur Brisbane, the Public Editor of the Times, has commented. Reader outrage, he said, is "understandable." A follow-up piece is planned.]

Information, Please: Are you giving money to Koch Industries?

Ever since Jane Mayer eviscerated the Koch Brothers in The New Yorker, some of us have been looking more closely at these billionaire brothers. In Wisconsin, we recently learned, Koch Industries is the biggest donor to a Governor determined to smash the teachers’ union. Big surprise: the company is poised to make fresh fortunes in that state. Some of you may wonder: Am I buying Koch products? Well, if you have strong feelings about this stuff, here’s the list of Koch-owned products you may not want to buy:

— Vanity Fair, Zee and Sparkle napkins.

— Angel Soft, Quilted Northern and Soft ‘n Gentle toilet paper.

— Brawny paper towels.
 
— Dixie cups, plates, bowls and napkins.  

The Little Things: In Charles Nolan’s Memory, Andy Tobias is funding this

Lisa Becker writes to Andy Tobias, who just lost Charles: “This past Christmas Day I was home cooking for my husband when I saw a news report about a grass roots organization operating here in Atlanta, the Global Soap Project. It was founded by a man named Derreck Kayongo.  He and his family fled from Uganda during Idi Amin’s terror in the late 70’s. Derreck has since become successful. He was staying in a hotel when he saw a housekeeper throw away a bar of soap that had been used once. He saw an opportunity. The Global Soap Project has organized literally dozens of hotels, first in Atlanta, then around the country, to save those used bars of soap. They are shipped to a warehouse here, sanitized, and formed into new bars of soap. They are then shipped to refugee camps and to displaced people around the world. 

 
As a healthcare worker, I was immediately hooked, because I saw the bigger implications.  The World Health Organization estimates that a child dies of a preventable disease every 30 seconds, simply because they can’t cleanse themselves. If a mother can cleanse herself before she breast feeds her baby, if a family can wash their food before they eat it, to wash their kitchen utensils, to bathe, and wash their clothes – this is a project that has the possibility of saving lives and alleviating suffering. I will be present for this project for the long haul. 
 
As a new volunteer, this is what I saw. The warehouse is small, located off of an access road behind a strip center. When you first walk in, first of all there is grated soap all over the floor. On one wall of the warehouse, there are literally piles of garbage bags full of soap ready to be processed.  Volunteers like me work in shifts.To sanitize the soap, we scrape off the outside with a potato peeler. The clean soap is then grated, then put into a machine that looks like a giant pasta maker. The machine melts the soap, then forms it into one long bar of soap at the end of the machine. The soap is cut into generously sized bars, then packaged into crates, ready to ship.  
 
Derreck has told me that he has to be very careful about shipping the bars. In those parts of the world, products like ours can end up on the black market, so he only uses volunteer organizations that he trusts, like Amnesty International. (Derreck told me that he once followed a Global Soap shipment to a refugee camp in Africa. When the mothers in the village saw what had been brought to them, they were so overjoyed they danced in the street.) 
 
I also saw as a new volunteer that this organization is a grass roots as they come, working on a shoe string budget. Derreck pays for the warehouse himself. They had a wish list for supplies a mile long that wasn’t being met. I worked a Global Soap shift today and had to make two trips in my car to bring in all of the supplies. It will take me time, the list is long. 
 
Isn’t it funny how so many things are connected? Because your book helped my husband and me 20 years ago, we have the money to do things like this…My husband David and I are like peas and carrots. We adore each other, and there is going to be a time that we will have to face what you are right now. One being without the other. That’s why I like believing in an afterworld. Our bodies are just shells. We’re vulnerable. But there are some things that never die, like true love. No matter what, we’ll see each other later. 

 

Piano Man: Kenny White at The Carlyle

Marc Cohn — remember Walking in Memphis? —- dropped in to sing with Kenny White at the Carlyle Hotel. "If there were justice," he said, "Kenny would do the half-time show at the Super Bowl and the Black Eyed Peas would be playing here." Hype? You wouldn’t suspect that if you’d been there: This too little-known singer-songwriter plays smart, wry songs too hip for most audiences — and yet he tore the place up. Kenny White will be at the Carlyle Hotel in NYC at 10:45 PM for one more Saturday, 3/12. Here’s a sample of his biting, acerbic side….

 

But when he gets serious…

Kate Betts: Everyday Icon — Michelle Obama and the Power of Style

Remember Inauguration Day, 2009? Michelle Obama stunned the fashion world — and a lot of Americans — by skipping the traditional First Lady uniform and wearing an Isabel Toledo dress with J. Crew gloves. Now, in Everyday Icon: Michelle Obama and the Power of Style, Kate Betts looks through Mrs. Obama’s closet, bridging the gap between silly fashionspeak and serious style analysis. As she writes: “Perhaps more than any First Lady before her, with the exception of Jackie Kennedy, Michelle Obama understands that style is much more than an aesthetic choice or political tool; it is the expression of one’s life, one’s way of being.” Smart. With a concise history of First Lady fashion. And lots of Chicago/New York fashion dish. And scads of photographs. Definitely brain candy.

Joan Schenkar and Patricia Highsmith: Partners in Crime

Who would spend 8 years researching and writing a biography of Patricia Highsmith, the dark genius who wrote thrillers packed with evil? Someone who might also have some Issues. In the Paris Review, Joan Schenkar — author of The Talented Miss Highsmith — writes: “I rue the day I didn’t have my late stepmother whacked. I’d rather eat dirt than talk to my larcenous cousins. I haven’t forgiven my father for disinheriting me. I don’t like families.” Wow. What follows? An illuminating look at biographical fascination — and discretion.

Tracy Chapman: State of the Union

I had almost stopped thinking about Christina-Taylor Green, the 9-year-old killed in Tucson. Then I read about how her family allowed her organs to be harvested and donated. The right decision, but as a father, very hard to go there. Then I heard Tracy Chapman’s song, "Bang Bang Bang." And then I thought not to spare you. If so inclined, please share.

What He Did For Love

There had been tensions, and they came to a head when it was time to tour just as his wife, after a difficult pregnancy, gave birth to a sickly child. What would you do? Peter Gabriel — lead singer of one of the most popular bands on the planet — quit Genesis and chose not to make a guaranteed gazillion. And then he wrote Solsbury Hill: "I walked right out of the machinery/ My heart going boom boom boom/ ‘Son,’ he said, ‘Grab your things/ I’ve come to take you home.’" It’s even more inspiring in concert, so…..